Losses...and Some Gains
Oops...I've been a naughty little blogger here and have been neglecting my blog for the past few weeks here. Perhaps I need a spanking, no? Much has been going on and I've been working diligently to shoot and edit the "Know Your Rights" video for sex workers that should be posted up on RedLight soon.
I've entered into a new relationship, but, er, I can't call it that because the person I'm involved with is very skittish about relationships (heard that one before), so I suppose I'll have to call it a "non-relationship" until we're both ready to accept it for what it really is. Nonetheless, he has very little free time during the week so I have to force him to put down his schoolbooks and spend some time with me, which has been a bot of a struggle so far. And what is it about being in a new (non-) relationship that makes you horny all the time? I've been really, really having a hard time with concentrating on the things I need to get done these days, leaving me lost in a mess of daydreams and masturbatory activities. I forgot all the feelings that get thrust upon you when embarking on a new affair...it's this combination of awesome and awful all at the same time.
Tomorrow morning my best friend David sets sail for Los Angeles to try to make his mark as a performer in the adult film industry. He lost his job at a law firm last month because of his involvement in porn and figures he might as well pursue the career he really wants rather than the one that's more socially acceptable. He was a well-liked employee at his firm, but the company felt they needed to fire him solely because word had gotten out about his career in porn. It's another dilemma those of us in the sex industry face...how can we work in the mainstream world when they shun us despite the quality of our work or our ability to keep our sex work separate from what we are doing? It's a big loss for me and I'll miss him dearly, but I can't help but want for my friends to do what makes them happy and what's best for them. Unfortunately, Chicago is (sadly) just too conservative to pursue a career in porn, despite all our best efforts.
Next week kittenINFINTE leaves Chicago as well, and many of you may know her as my partner-in-crime on several of the RedlightDistrict videos and podcasts. She's also been one of my main inspirations as an activist and was one of the original organizers of the local chapter of SWOP-Chicago. I would not be at the point I am now with my comfort level surrounding my work or my ability to help other sex workers with their issues in the industry without knowing and working with Kitten. She is strong, intelligent, confident, and a total badass; just someone I'm lucky to have know over all my years as an activist and sex worker. She inspires new people on a daily basis to be strong and secure about themselves and their place in the world. Kitten's leaving to travel, see the world, gather new experiences in life, and hopefully, inspire others to become activists in their communities on behalf of sex worker rights or whatever it is they believe in. Once again, it's a big loss for me, but I can't help but believe that there are others out there that could benefit from her inspiration and knowledge. It's up to me to continue on with the work she started here.
So Chicago's gonna be a lonelier place for me starting soon, but I still have some exciting things on the horizon. Local sex shop Early to Bed has given me to opportunity to host monthly forums on topics related to the sex industry, which I'm looking forward to hosting. The first date should be October 7 (Tuesday) and I'll be posting more details as soon as I have them ready. I'd love to see people come out to support me and the group so we can connect with more people in Chicago...it's been so hard and my energy has been waning. Now, with my good friends gone I can only hope to meet more who are just as strong, intelligent, fun, and perverted as the ones I'm losing.
Where are you people???
I've entered into a new relationship, but, er, I can't call it that because the person I'm involved with is very skittish about relationships (heard that one before), so I suppose I'll have to call it a "non-relationship" until we're both ready to accept it for what it really is. Nonetheless, he has very little free time during the week so I have to force him to put down his schoolbooks and spend some time with me, which has been a bot of a struggle so far. And what is it about being in a new (non-) relationship that makes you horny all the time? I've been really, really having a hard time with concentrating on the things I need to get done these days, leaving me lost in a mess of daydreams and masturbatory activities. I forgot all the feelings that get thrust upon you when embarking on a new affair...it's this combination of awesome and awful all at the same time.
Tomorrow morning my best friend David sets sail for Los Angeles to try to make his mark as a performer in the adult film industry. He lost his job at a law firm last month because of his involvement in porn and figures he might as well pursue the career he really wants rather than the one that's more socially acceptable. He was a well-liked employee at his firm, but the company felt they needed to fire him solely because word had gotten out about his career in porn. It's another dilemma those of us in the sex industry face...how can we work in the mainstream world when they shun us despite the quality of our work or our ability to keep our sex work separate from what we are doing? It's a big loss for me and I'll miss him dearly, but I can't help but want for my friends to do what makes them happy and what's best for them. Unfortunately, Chicago is (sadly) just too conservative to pursue a career in porn, despite all our best efforts.
Next week kittenINFINTE leaves Chicago as well, and many of you may know her as my partner-in-crime on several of the RedlightDistrict videos and podcasts. She's also been one of my main inspirations as an activist and was one of the original organizers of the local chapter of SWOP-Chicago. I would not be at the point I am now with my comfort level surrounding my work or my ability to help other sex workers with their issues in the industry without knowing and working with Kitten. She is strong, intelligent, confident, and a total badass; just someone I'm lucky to have know over all my years as an activist and sex worker. She inspires new people on a daily basis to be strong and secure about themselves and their place in the world. Kitten's leaving to travel, see the world, gather new experiences in life, and hopefully, inspire others to become activists in their communities on behalf of sex worker rights or whatever it is they believe in. Once again, it's a big loss for me, but I can't help but believe that there are others out there that could benefit from her inspiration and knowledge. It's up to me to continue on with the work she started here.
So Chicago's gonna be a lonelier place for me starting soon, but I still have some exciting things on the horizon. Local sex shop Early to Bed has given me to opportunity to host monthly forums on topics related to the sex industry, which I'm looking forward to hosting. The first date should be October 7 (Tuesday) and I'll be posting more details as soon as I have them ready. I'd love to see people come out to support me and the group so we can connect with more people in Chicago...it's been so hard and my energy has been waning. Now, with my good friends gone I can only hope to meet more who are just as strong, intelligent, fun, and perverted as the ones I'm losing.
Where are you people???
posted by Serpentlibertine at
9:44 PM
2 Comments:
We'll do our best! I just wish I had gotten to know kittenINFINITE before she takes off on her fantastic voyage.
Serpent,
Good luck on your new venture, I will have to make it to Early to Bed. Also, too bad I didn't get to know Kitten. Good luck to your friend David, He and I are in similar situations. I'd like to get back in the business but am worried about my regular job (I work at a hospital). Part of me says who gives a shit if people know, but then I see what happened to David as decided you can't be that open. Roberto
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